I recently announced that we were expecting another baby in June 2014. I was overly eager to share our joyous news. As it turns out, the pregnancy was just not meant to be, and we're now left to move on with life. Quite coincidentally, the following email landed in my inbox the very day after we learned our sad news. I asked permission to share her words on my blog, as I found them quite fitting, appropriate and comforting as I take time to be with my emotions and feelings, and focus on deep gratitude for the blessings that are my two wonderfully amazing sons. ~ Chandra
I'M SHARING THE FOLLOWING AS A "GUEST POST" BY SHANEL COOPER-SYKES
How are you?
I hope all is well in your world.
I know that a word of encouragement can mean a lot.
You never know what a person is going through at any
moment. So in this email, I want to give you a smile AND
a word of encouragement.
In one of my latest reports, I mentioned the difference between Going Through and Getting Through
A lot of people spend most of their lives going through
I'll speak for myself.
Year after year, always something different. A business
issue, family issue, health issue, money issue , moving
to a different city.
I realized, this is how it is for most people. They
spend their whole life going through stuff instead of
getting through stuff.
Right now, I want you to declare that it’s time to GET
THROUGH MY STUFF. Before I give you tips on how to do
it, let me explain how I see things.
I look at life as the big ocean.
There’s waves, there’s stillness and there’s calmness
and there’s peace a nd there’s beauty, but there's also
storms, lightning and thunder.
We're out there in the ocean in our little boat rowing
along, when all of the sudden God throws a BIG storm in
That storm is going to hit your boat, you’re going to
rock, you’re going to sway, you’re going to dip up and
down, you’re going to get wet, you’re going to get
frustrated, you’re not going to know how to steer your
way through that storm.
This might be a true *WTF* moment!!!!
There’s nothing you can do about that storm.
But here’s the amazing thing about the way that God
designed us as human beings and the way that God
designed a boat. A boat is designed to float.
The only way a boat can sink is if you allow water to
get in the boat.
If you tip the boat over far enough the water begins to
get inside the boat and the boat is going to then sink.
That’s the same thing that happens to a lot of us in our
lives. We are in this big ocean of life.
We’re being hit by waves, we’re being hit by
relationships, we’re being hit by growing older and
different circumstances and different situations and
finances and all this stuff that goes on in our lives.
We get so lost in all the rocking and the swaying that
we tip ourselves over and allow life to get inside of
And when life gets inside of you and all the stuff gets
inside of you, you begin to sink and drown.
Drowning in debt, drowning in a situation, drowning in a
relationship, drowning in my business, drowning with my
So what's the secret?
You have to learn how to stay afloat. Stuff will happen
to you but can't allow what’s happening to become you.
Whatever it is you were dealing with does not have to be
who you are. What’s happening to you is not you.
We allow the storm to overtake us and we forget who we
are. And we become our problems. Just because the job is
hard doesn’t mean that you have to be hard.
Just because a situation is difficult, does not mean
that you have to be difficult. Just because the c hief
is unfair and he did you wrong doesn’t mean that you
have to be unfair and wrong.
Remind Yourself : I AM WHO I AM!!
You are a child of God, you are powerful, you have power
and dominion over your life, you have the ability to get
through things, you have strength, you have courage and
other characteristics to get through anything.
You may be a great communicator, thinker or visionary,
creator, lover, leader.
Or you’re very educated, you’re very smart, very loving.
There is a lot MORE to you than what is HAPPENING to
Often, we forget about ourselves when we’re in the
storm. Don't let life get inside of you, and make you
There is purpose in every moment!!! You can get through
whatever you're going through, keep rowing and keep
going, you're closer than you think!!!
If you would like more empowerment and coaching to get
through, get over, get beyond and improve your life, I
invite you to my Instant Life Transformation workshop.
I believe in you. Don't give up!!
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