"I gave up years ago on the concept that you could actually have balance in your life. I think it's a phantom chase." - Barbara Corcoran
The more and more I experience life as a self-employed entrepreneur, not to mention a mom and a wife, the more I'm beginning to agree with Barbara Corcoran's statement.
I find that I have a tendency to vacillate between extremes. All or nothing. Then maybe, just maybe, I find a little balance in one aspect of life or another. But it's usually temporary, fleeting at best. Something happens or an opportunity comes along or life offers up a "plot twist" and balance goes right out the window again.
Take the past two weeks as an example. Prior to this time period, I'd been maintaining a consistent workout schedule streak, and then BOOM, a migraine hit. One that had me curled up in a ball in tears. There was no way I could exercise through it that day. And so the workout streak was laid to rest. And then life came along and dictated that I put my full and complete focus on our businesses, finances and income. So during the month of April, so far, I have worked out exactly five days out of seventeen. Now, luckily for me, since I work at home and have a two-year-old who keeps me on my toes, I'm never sitting for too terribly long at any one time. So I'm still active even when I'm not working out. It's the little blessings I count.
I've been eating... alright. Not the greatest but not the very worst either. I'm basically in maintenance mode currently while I attempt to ...ahem... "balance" other areas of my life. From one extreme to the other and back again. I *know* without a shadow of a doubt that I will *not* allow this to defeat me. There's NO way I would ever let it slip and slide away enough that I'd come anywhere close to "square one" (over 200lbs, that is). Nope. I'm simply rearranging priorities temporarily on an as-needed basis. No sweat.
No need to pile stress on top of stress by thinking I'm going to put all the weight back on that took me 4 years to whittle away!
I'm done trying to hunt down and capture that elusive thing called balance... put that right up there next to "perfection", right?! Life is messy. Life isn't a perfectly straight line. Life is ups and downs, highs and lows, twists and turns, and I'm here just doing my best to weather the unexpected storms and warrior my way through them as best I can. Even the best, most practiced juggler drops the occasional ball, right?! No biggie. Pick it up again and carry on juggling. Drop another, pick it up... or even leave it on the floor to roll away under the sofa if it's not doing you any good anyhow. Isn't it refreshing to know we have a choice in the matter? Many choices, including the choice to NOT get stressed out over balance and/or perfection.
Yep. I'm training for a full-blown marathon. In November. Still plenty of time to prepare. No biggie.
Let me know in the comments below... or come drop a line over on my Facebook page...
How do you feel about "balance"?
4/20/2014 05:38:42 am
As a relatively new wife and mom, I've been trying to find some sort of balance but have to agree with you; perfect balance is a myth! Life DOES change so much and babies change so much and so fast, I'm gradually kissing my super type-A, very scheduled self goodbye! That actually has been very freeing, though :)
Hi Amy, thanks for stopping by! It was much more structured when I was working a standard 9-5 job, so what a learning experience the past year as a full-time work-at-home mom who homeschools has been!
Megan, it's been quite the wild ride trying to have some form of default mode / schedule in a household where we live, eat, drink, work, school and everything else together almost 24/7. No real set schedule except what we make ourselves... for me coming from a solid, steady 9-5 kind of life, it's been quite the shock and learning experience!! That's kind of my motto too at this stage, just trying to enjoy it and keeping my head above water while trying to enjoy every second of my kids' childhoods, because I know they'll be grown all too soon. My big boy turns 10 on Wednesday... how the heck have I been a parent for a decade already?!?! :)
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